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In every situation there is a space, and in that space you have a choice. The choice to react or respond.
Victor Frankel wrote:
Above the line and below the line is also the difference between responding (above the line) or reacting, which immediately puts you below the line. When we are hijacked by our emotional system, we automatically fall into the trap of the drama triangle. And we choose a role for ourselves. When we choose a role for ourselves, we at the same time try and push the people around us or the circumstances of whatever into one of the two other roles to get the drama triangle going. And as we mentioned last time, this only serves the purpose of creating a lot of emotional friction, hot air, whatever you like. But it never leads to any constructive solutions. As long as we are caught in the drama triangle, we have no possibility to, create anything meaningful or useful. We just go round and round in circles like cats chasing our own tails.
Try and listen for your own language and notice how your own language will determine whether you are starting a new drama triangle or whether you already are responding and trying to pull the whole conversation into a completely new sphere above the line where we’re outcome focused, constructive and trying to find solutions. And if you can manage that, and if you get good at that, then you’re going to see how people love to work with you.
Previous blog posts in this series on Team Leadership Skills and working above and below the line:
This is a question I get all the time.
In my view there is no one universal book on leadership that you must read.
The book you will learn most from is your own daily journal. Seriously.
Ask yourself these 4 questions at the end of each day:
Do this every day and you will learn the most amazing things.
Accelerate your learning by doing a weekly review of the past weeks entries.
Now ask your self:
In the previous video blog, we looked at how what we believe shapes our approach to learning and development. So the obvious question is how can we change what we believe?
That is what this video is about:
Last week, we looked at the knowing-doing gap and some of the causes behind that. But your mindset is possibly the biggest hindrance in closing your knowing-doing gap. That is what this week’s video is about.
Download The Mindset Checkup Test
Next week, we will have a look at what it takes to change our beliefs.
In my previous blog post, I mentioned that I have decided to switch format in 2018 and try my hand at vlogging. Here is the first video in a new series about learning developing and getting better at stuff.
Next week, we will explore how your mindset contributes to the knowing-doing gap for many of us.