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“The cost to use AI falls about 10x every 12 months,” according to Sam Altman. Within a decade, we might all have capabilities exceeding today’s most impactful individuals.

But here’s the paradox that keeps me awake at night: What good are superpowers if we can’t use them together?

As AI amplifies our individual capabilities, our need for genuine human connection doesn’t diminish – it intensifies. We’re creating a world where everyone could be extraordinary, yet our success will hinge not on individual brilliance, but on our ability to build trust and collaborate authentically.

Two critical elements will determine whether we use our AI-enhanced capabilities to create or compete:

Transparency: In a world of amplified capabilities, being open about our intentions, limitations, and aspirations becomes non-negotiable. Trust can’t exist in shadows.

Interdependence: We must challenge the myth of the independent star performer. Tomorrow’s breakthroughs won’t come from lone geniuses, but from networks of trust where enhanced individual capabilities combine to create something greater than the sum of their parts.

The real question isn’t whether AI will make us more capable – it will. The question is whether we’ll develop the relationship skills to harness these capabilities collectively. Will we use our newfound powers to compete, or will we learn to trust enough to create something extraordinary together?

The future of leadership isn’t about managing AI; it’s about fostering the human connections that make enhanced capabilities meaningful.

What are you doing to build trust in your organisation as our individual capabilities grow?

#Leadership #AI #Trust #Collaboration #FutureOfWork

Five words that often precede some of the most poorly prepared conversations in business. As leaders, we claim we don’t have time for proper relationship-building with our team members. Yet we find ourselves in endless cycles of quick catch-ups and impromptu meetings that leave both parties feeling unfulfilled.

Here’s the paradox: In our rush to ‘save time’, we’re actually creating a relationship deficit that requires even more time to fix.

Recently, I’ve been exploring two frameworks that, when combined, offer a powerful lens for workplace relationships. The first is Alison Wood Brooks’ TALK framework (Topics, Asking, Levity, Kindness), and the second examines the intersection of sincerity and longevity in relationships.

Consider this: Workplace relationships typically fall into one of four categories:

• Rooted: Long-lasting and sincere – these are the trusted colleagues who make work meaningful
• Wilted: Long-lasting but insincere – the obligatory interactions that drain energy
• Blooming: Brief but sincere – meaningful moments of connection that serve their purpose
• Popped: Brief and insincere – purely transactional exchanges that leave no trace

As leaders, we often unconsciously push our team relationships into the ‘wilted’ category. We maintain regular contact through status updates and check-ins, but without genuine sincerity or preparation, these interactions become routine exercises in going through the motions.

But what if we could transform these wilted relationships into rooted ones? This is where the TALK framework becomes transformative:

• Topics, prepare your topics thoughtfully – showing you value the interaction enough to plan for it
• Ask questions that demonstrate genuine curiosity and deep listening
• Levity , keep it light and fun to create psychological safety and human connection
• Kindness and an authentic interest in the other person’s perspective

The magic happens when we combine intentional preparation with genuine sincerity. It’s not about having more conversations—it’s about making each conversation count. A single sincere, well-prepared interaction can do more to build relationships than dozens of impromptu, shallow check-ins.

Our team members aren’t longing for more time with us – they’re longing for more presence, more sincerity, more genuine connection. They can tell the difference between a leader who’s going through the motions and one who’s truly invested in the relationship.

The next time you need to “have a talk” with someone on your team, pause. Take ten minutes to think through your TALK framework. Those ten minutes might be the difference between a conversation that wilts and one that helps your relationship root and flourish.

After all, leadership isn’t measured by the frequency of our interactions or even their duration. It’s measured by the sincerity we bring to each moment of connection, whether that moment lasts five minutes or five years.

What’s your experience? Have you found that preparing for conversations actually makes them feel more authentic rather than less? How do you ensure your workplace relationships stay rooted rather than wilted?

#Leadership #Management #PersonalDevelopment #Relationships #WorkplaceCulture

Sources: Flux Sonverly Yours on Relationships- https://substack.com/home/post/p-156638811?source=queue&autoPlay=false

Talk: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves by Alison Wood Brooks |

I had a coaching conversation with a junior leader recently that got me thinking. “The higher up they go,” she said, “the more transactional our leaders become.”

What struck me wasn’t just the observation itself, but the irony it revealed: Almost every leader I work with craves more meaningful connection with their own boss. Yet somehow, in the daily rush of organizational life, many fail to translate this very human need into their own leadership practice.

It’s not about “bad” leaders. It’s about good people caught in a cycle of pressure and task-focus, losing sight of what they themselves most desire – real connection and dialogue.

The most effective leaders I encounter are those who’ve found their way out of this trap. 

What sets them apart isn’t a special technique or management philosophy. It’s their comfort with their own role, a true sense of caring, and their liberation from the need to prove their worth through an endless stream of completed tasks.

The research is clear: command-and-control leadership isn’t the most effective approach. But knowledge isn’t enough. The real challenge lies in bridging the knowing-doing gap – in remembering, amid the pressures of leadership, that the connection we crave is exactly what our teams need from us.

What would change in your organization if leaders at every level focused as much on building relationships as they do on managing tasks?

#leadership #connectionbeforcontent 

We often hear that meaningful organisational change must start from the top. “Leadership needs to set the tone,” they say. But history tells us a different story.

Think about major societal transformations – from the Arab Spring to the Civil Rights Movement. Those in power didn’t initiate these. They started with conversations between ordinary people who dared to imagine something different.

Yet in organisations, I often hear: “I can’t do anything about that – it has to come from management.” This learned helplessness is fascinating because it contradicts what we know about how change actually happens in complex systems.

The truth is that transformation often begins with simple conversations. Two or three people start talking about what could be better – not through complaints or blame, but through genuine dialogue about possibilities. These conversations become the seeds of change.

These aren’t your typical water cooler venting sessions. Effective change conversations require us to step out of what psychologists call the Drama Triangle – where we cast ourselves as Victims, others as Persecutors, and wait for Rescuers to save us. Instead, they’re conversations where people claim their agency and explore what they can influence, however small it might seem.

Next time you find yourself thinking, “Someone should do something about this,” remember: You’re not powerless. Find a colleague. Start a conversation. Ask, “What could we start doing differently?” History shows us that profound change often starts with just that – people at any level choosing to have different kinds of conversations.

The question isn’t whether you have enough authority to create change. The question is: What conversations are you willing to start?

#Leadership #OrganizationalChange #Empowerment #WorkplaceCulture #ChangeManagement

Everywhere you turn these days, someone’s selling the secret sauce of storytelling. ‘Transform your brand!’ ‘Captivate your audience!’ ‘Master the art of narrative!’

The ironic part is that you’re already a master storyteller. In fact, you’re telling stories right now, even as you read this.

You see, your life isn’t just a collection of random events – it’s an ongoing narrative you’re constantly writing and editing. That tense meeting yesterday? You’ve already crafted a story about what it meant. That disagreement with your partner? There’s a narrative forming around it, complete with character motivations and plot twists.

These stories aren’t just idle mental chatter. They’re the scaffolding of meaning in our lives. They shape how we interpret everything from a colleague’s casual remark to a major career setback.

Think about your 2024 story so far. What’s the genre? Is it a tale of resilience? A comedy of errors? A drama of unfulfilled potential?

But, you’re not just the protagonist – you’re also the author. And authors have choices.

Take that challenging project you’re facing. Is it the story of an insurmountable obstacle, or the opening chapter of your greatest professional triumph? 

That team member who keeps pushing back – are they the antagonist in your story, or a character bringing valuable contrast and growth to your narrative?

The magic happens when you realize you can reframe these stories:

‘This is the end’ becomes ‘This is the beginning’

‘This is happening to me’ transforms into ‘This is happening for me’

‘This is a crisis’ shifts to ‘This is an opportunity”

The reframing changes the meaning – and meaning is the fuel that drives our motivation.

So your life story isn’t set in stone. It’s more like a real-time draft, constantly being revised and rewritten. The question isn’t whether you can tell a good story – you already do that naturally. The real question is: what story are you telling yourself, and is it serving the life you want to create?

So as this year come to an end And  you look ahead to the chapters yet to come, what story would you like to tell? 

More importantly, what story would you like to live?

Happy new year!

Ever noticed how some leaders swing between being too harsh and too soft?

I repeatedly see this pattern when working with organizations implementing the Service Profit Chain. Leaders eager to boost employee satisfaction suddenly become reluctant to lead. They stop setting standards, being directive, and managing.

Their hearts are in the right place—they don’t want to damage the employee satisfaction they’ve worked so hard to build.

But here’s the twist: This approach backfires spectacularly.

Without clear direction, teams drift, service quality drops, and customer satisfaction plummets. Then comes the devastating conclusion: “See? Creating a great workplace doesn’t work.”

The real issue is that these leaders are missing a fundamental truth: Power and Love aren’t opposites—they’re complementary forces.

Think about it: Just feeling good but achieving nothing? That’s not satisfaction. That’s stagnation.

The magic happens when you blend both:

• First, build the foundation of trust and belonging (Love)
• Then, raise the bar with clear standards and expectations (Power)

When done in this order, something remarkable occurs. Instead of resistance, you get engagement. Instead of compliance, you get commitment.

Why? People don’t just want to feel good; they want to achieve something meaningful. They want to grow, contribute, and excel.

Martin Luther King Jr. captured this perfectly: “Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anaemic.”

So next time you’re tempted to choose between being supportive or demanding, remember that it’s not either/or. It’s both/and.

Your team deserves nothing less.

#Leadership #EmployeeEngagement #ServiceProfitChain #ManagementTips #OrganizationalDevelopment

Picture a perfectly ripe peach on your desk. 

It’s beautiful, fragrant. After a few days, tiny spots start to appear. A few days later, when you finally think about enjoying that peach, it’s mushy, spotted, and crawling with fruit flies.

Leadership failure rarely announces itself with dramatic mistakes. More often, it creeps in through quiet inaction – those small moments when we choose to “wait and see” instead of engage.

– We see the team member struggling with a project but tell ourselves they’ll figure it out. 
– We notice communication gaps widening but convince ourselves they’ll naturally resolve. 
– We observe declining engagement but hope it’s just a phase.

Potential rots silently. 

By the time the symptoms become impossible to ignore, the damage requires far more intervention than a simple, early conversation would have.

Great leadership isn’t just about avoiding wrong decisions – it’s about making the right ones at the right time. It’s about having those uncomfortable conversations when they’re merely uncomfortable, not yet critical. It’s about addressing small performance gaps before they become chasms.

Ask yourself: 
What conversations am I avoiding today that I’ll wish I had yesterday? 
What small issues am I hoping will resolve themselves?

#Leadership #Management #PersonalDevelopment #ProfessionalGrowth

The Service Profit Chain (SPC) is a management philosophy that links profitability and growth directly to customer loyalty, customer satisfaction, and employee satisfaction. [1] It differs from traditional management theory, which often focuses on inward, product-centric models, by emphasizing an outside-in, customer-centric approach. [2, 3]

Here are the key elements of the SPC and how they differ from traditional management theory:

• Customer Loyalty: The SPC identifies customer loyalty as the most critical driver of profits and growth, particularly through the “ambassador effect” where loyal customers recommend a business to others. [1, 4, 5] This contrasts with the traditional emphasis on market share as the primary profit driver. [4]
• Customer Satisfaction: The SPC stresses that mere customer satisfaction is not enough for loyalty. Instead, it highlights the importance of exceeding customer expectations and creating “enthusiasm” to foster genuine loyalty. [6, 7]
• Value Creation: The SPC emphasizes the need to understand and deliver value from the customer’s perspective. [8] It challenges the traditional “core service with peripheral offerings” model, which often leads to increased costs and a disconnect between what businesses offer and what customers truly value. [3, 9, 10]
• Employee Capability: The SPC emphasizes the need for continuous employee training and development to ensure they possess the knowledge and skills necessary to deliver exceptional customer experiences and adapt to changing customer needs. [11, 12]
• Employee Loyalty: The SPC recognizes that enthusiastic employees are essential for creating enthusiastic customers. [13] It stresses the importance of fostering employee loyalty through trust, pride in their work, and a shared sense of purpose. [14] This focus on employee well-being and motivation contrasts with traditional management approaches that may prioritize efficiency and cost-cutting over employee morale.

The SPC model encourages businesses to invest in their employees and empower them to make decisions that benefit both the customer and the company. [15, 16] This approach fosters a culture of service excellence, where employees are motivated to go above and beyond to ensure customer satisfaction. [17, 18]

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