Satisfied Singlehood. The New Year is barely on the calendar, and wouldn’t you know it, we already have our first new buzzword: Quirkyalone. The word is the invention of one Sasha Cagen, author of a new book whose full title is: Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising , reports Karen S. Peterson in USA Today. Sasha, who is 30 and not single but “quirkyalone,” says her goal is to “introduce the term … and hope people use it as a tool for conversation. Here’s how she defines the term: “A person who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and generally prefers to be alone rather than dating for the sake of being in a couple. With unique traits and an optimistic spirit; a sensibility that transcends relationship status.”
Why, thank you, Sasha (that metrosexual thing was getting really old). Actually, Sasha says “quirkyalone” is not just a term but a movement based not only on her own life experience but that of “hundreds” of people ranging in age from their “20s to the 70s” with whom she has communicated via her website, www.quirkyalone.net . She says she chose the word “quirky” not to mean “strange, bizarre or eccentric,” but simply “not part of the mainstream.” She says quirkyalones are romantics, but stand “in opposition to saccharine, archaic notions of romantic love.” Quirkyalone, says Sasha, “stands for self-respect, independent spirit, creativity, true love and confidence.”
While the quirkyalone “movement” claims devotees across generations, Sasha suggests it is something of a reaction to the baby boomers. “We have seen so many marriages break up,” she notes. She also says that, while quirkyalones are both male and female, it’s mainly populated by women, because they “are inundated with messages that something is wrong if you don’t have a boyfriend. Look at all the magazines in the grocery stores,” she says. “They all assume if you don’t have a boyfriend, you want to know how to get one.” So, how do you know whether you’re a quirkyalone? “When you are single long enough to know singleness is not a unique state of being and not just a holding pattern between relationships, you are on the brink of becoming a quirkyalone,” says Sasha.